I want to share a few thoughts with you about God's sovereignty and how I have understood it applying to my life. I commented in my last post that I would not change anything that has happened in my life, because I know that God has used it for His glory. You wondered how I could say that knowing what I've been through. So let me go into further detail, but before I do please understand that I realize that depending on what you are dealing with I do know that this is a hard truth to accept.
I do understand that no one would want to go through tragedy or have to live with abuse. But in this world filled with sinful man it happens. Children are taken advantage of, they are abused. People do die, and because God has given man a free will sometimes there are victims of others sinful choices. Yet to say God isn't sovereign over these areas goes against who scriptures says God is. God does not stand idly by and let things happen, He is in control, He is sovereign. Our destiny is not in our hands, or in the hands of other people. We are held in the hands of our heavenly Father, who controls everything.
One thing we need to understand is that "from the rise and fall of government to tomorrow's weather to the exact location of every human being, the universe is under God's control. He has the power and authority to do exactly what pleases him, anywhere he chooses to do it. God's sovereignty is not only about power and position, but also about a plan."(Paul D. Tripp) Scripture is pretty clear about God having a plan for this world and for each one of us. God calls us unto himself, He forms us into His likeness, and He is preparing us to live in eternity with him. To the human eye things may seem out of control, both in our individual lives and the lives of the world. But at any given time of the past, present and the future God is accomplishing His plan. His plan is being accomplished when we see "good" happening and when we see "evil" happening.
I know that there is evil in the world, and because God allows man to have a free will, and because of the evil choices of man, there are victims. Not only does bad things happen to people but evil happens to people. Evil happens to us and then we have to live in the aftermath of it. But to say that God is not sovereign over that is to not understand the God of the Bible. God is good, God is in control and God is sovereign over all things. In God's wisdom and sovereign will every trial in a Christian's life is ordained from eternity past, custom-made for that believer's eternal good, even when it doesn't seem like it. Nothing happens by accident, not even tragedy, not even sins committed against us. Unless the Bible is wrong, nothing happens outside of God's decree. Nothing good, nothing bad, nothing pleasant, nothing tragic. Every sorrow we taste will one day prove to be the best possible thing that could have happened. We will thank God endlessly in heaven for the trials he sent to us here. Truth is clear according to Acts 9:16; Phil 1:29; 2 Cor 1:5, Acts 14:22; Rom 8:17 (and others) the Christian is called to share in Christ's sufferings. Simply put- Christians will suffer in this world. Evil can only raise its head where God deliberately backs away - always for reasons that are specific, wise and good, but often hidden during this present life. Satan has to get permission, he operates under constraints. Luke 22:31
Unfortunately we don't always know why, and as humans we thinks it our "right" to know why. Trusting God must be enough. The best answer we have is "God uses suffering to purge sin from our lives, strengthen our commitment to him, force us to depend on grace, bind us together with other believers, produce discernment, foster sensitivity, discipline our minds, spend our time wisely, stretch our hope, cause us to know Christ better, make us long for truth, lead up to repentance of sin, teach us to give thanks in times of sorrow, increase faith, and strengthen character." (Tada-When God Weeps)
So it comes down to this, I choose to trust in His sovereign will for my life whether I understand it or not. I must choose to walk in what I know is true today. The past and what I've been through needs to be seen as past of my journey that God has used to get me where I am today.
Each of us may have that event or circumstance we'd like to change, but instead of living in the past of guilt, shame or regret we need to live a life that accepts that God wasn't caught by surprise. He didn't take His hands off you at that moment. Trust instead in His sovereignty, Trust that all things work together for good to those who love him. All things - both good and bad, whether we have sinned or been sinned against.