A Longing Unsatisfied

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I believe that there is a longing in every heart for a deep soul connection. A longing that often cries out to be filled.
We desire to connect with another person. To connect deeply. To be loved unconditionally. We desire to be accepted, valued, and complete.
Too often when we get married we think that our spouse will fill that need, that longing to be apart of something bigger than yourself. We marry thinking that every need, especially emotionally, will be met.
We think that we no longer will be lonely or fill empty. We will have someone to share EVERYTHING with. We will have that one person who totally understands us.
Our spouse cannot meet every need we have emotionally. Some will say that we need our girlfriends to meet our needs where our husbands can not. But again the reality is that I can have a good, healthy relationship with my husband, mother, sister or a friend but at some point in the relationship I will want more. At some point they will fail or disappoint me. Their love will never be enough to fully satisfy the longing. It’s impossible, and to think they can sets a person up to fail. To think you husband can or should sets your marriage up to fail.
God created each of us with a longing that can only be filled by Him. To expect anyone else to fill that longing will only bring disappoint in the end.
I believe marriages, and other relationships in our lives will be better, healthier and strong if we first go to God where we will be completely satisfied. When we are in a relationship with Him the longing will be filled. Our relationship with our husband will not be enough if I have not allowed God to fill the longing in us.
Once I am filled to overflowing by the Spirit of God I can then go to my husband without any thought of myself. I am free then, and only then, to offer myself completely without any expectations to be filled by him because I am already filled to overflowing with Christ.
The beauty of living completely satisfied in Christ is that we no longer go to those we love in order to seek to be filled. We can however be free to give more fully of ourselves.
The only one  in this world that can fill the longing inside you in Jesus. It’s a relationship with Him, not our husbands that fully satisfy. Jesus says that He came to give you life, abundant life! (John 10:10) And in Colossians we are reminded that it is in Christ that we are complete. “For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, and you have been given fullness in Christ, who is the head over every power and authority.” (Col 2:9,10)
Oh dear one, you no longer have to live a life of emptiness or neglect Jesus longs to fill you with Himself so that you will know joy and peace and abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. (Rom 15:13)
He waits for you. He longs to fill the emptiness of your soul.
Oh Father forgive me for the times I go to my husband to fill my needs when I should come to you. Even if my husband could fill all my needs it still wouldn’t fully satisfy apart from You. Jesus help me to live fully satisfied in your love. I want to be filled to overflowing with all of you so that I might not want from those I love but so that I can give of all I am to them. Help me to be a living sacrifice, help me to be an example of Your overflowing love. Amen
"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in Him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."Romans 15:13
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  1. Sharon,
    Your post was spot on! Thanks for linking up at The Alabaster Jar....didn't matter that you were a day late! Your words will bless others none the less!
    Love to you,

  2. Great post -- and very true! Our expectations must be fulfilled in God alone! Much easier said than done though -- don't you think??

    Thanks for linking up with me at Yes They're All Ours for my Marriage Monday series! Come back next week and join me again!


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