Thankful for Loneliness

Today I share Psalms 27 (below) because once again I find myself in a place that is familiar. I am in a place that feels SO lonely and forgotten. I know that I am here because it's where my Father desires me to be. I've been here so many times before. I've learned the loneliness of being abandoned by my mother and father and my siblings. I have felt the loneliness of no intimate earthly relationships. And I have felt the loneliness of no friends. While there may have been a time where these feelings would have sent me to bed for weeks, crying in great despair I have now come to a place where I can be thankful for these times of extreme loneliness.

I am thankful because I know I am not alone. God is and always will be with me. Even if everyone does leave me, He never will and that my dear sisters is enough.

I also know that I am not truly alone on this earth either. I have a husband and children who absolutely love me. Even more I have a husband who loves me, cherishes me and desires to be with me.

I also have friends, but not just casual friends that say hello as they pass by, but sisters who love me. And God has given me a kindred spirit – so I know I am not truly alone.

But if we were honest with ourselves we would all agree that even with all the above there are times of extreme loneliness. That's where I am today. And I am thankful because today my "emotion" of loneliness propels me toward God not away from Him as in the past. I have learned to recognize that the enemy would love for me to give in to my ever changing emotions. I have also learned that emotions are not to be trusted.

Our emotions cannot be trusted. They are not truth. See, my current emotions would tell me I am alone, with no one who really cares or understands what I am currently facing. No one really understands how I feel about all the changes taking place in my life. No one really understands the deep painful loss I feel as a beloved sister moves away. My sisters can I just say that while I might think these thoughts and feel the emotions they are NOT true!!

I will even go on to say that IF they were true it wouldn't matter for the thing I seek most is God Himself, and He will hold me close. He will be all I need, for He IS enough!

The LORD is my light and my salvation;
so why should I be afraid?
The LORD protects me from danger;
so why should I tremble?
When evil people come to destroy me,
when my enemies and foes attack me,
they will stumble and fall.
Though a mighty army surrounds me,
my heart will know no fear.
Even if they attack me, I remain confident.
The one thing I ask of the LORD,
the thing I seek most,
is to live in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
delighting in the LORD's perfections
and meditating in his Temple.

For he will conceal me there when troubles come;
he will hide me in his sanctuary.
He will place me out of reach on a high rock.
Then I will hold my head high,
above my enemies who surround me.
At his Tabernacle I will offer sacrifices with shouts of joy,
singing and praising the LORD with music.
Listen to my pleading, O LORD.
Be merciful and answer me!

My heart has heard you say, "Come and talk with me."
And my heart responds, "LORD, I am coming."
Do not hide yourself from me.
Do not reject your servant in anger.
You have always been my helper.
Don't leave me now; don't abandon me,
O God of my salvation!

Even if my father and mother abandon me,
the LORD will hold me close.
Teach me how to live, O LORD.
Lead me along the path of honesty, f
or my enemies are waiting for me to fall.
Do not let me fall into their hands.
For they accuse me of things I've never done
and breathe out violence against me.

Yet I am confident that I will see the LORD's goodness
While I am here in the land of the living.
Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous.
Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.



  1. Never alone, He is always with us how sweet is that knowledge. Praise to God that He has taught you this truth and no matter how many lonely days we have -days where we feel there are no people to care we can truly rest assured God cares. Also you are so right about our emotions- so often I seek God with my emotions and when I can't feel Him I feel abandoned/alone but this is not true for God is always waiting for me to come-forever calling me to come. I have to learn that it is not in my emotions He exist but in my praise and in my worship. Be blessed my sister and thanks for sharing a piece of yourself today and Psalm 27 filled with so much encouragement.

  2. Sharon, I now consider you my best friend. I sometimes think that no person on earth understands me or my thoughts at all. God has sent you too and I'm thankful....Kae

  3. I am crying. Finally the tears come and it's gut wrenching sobs! Not only is there the loneliness but a deep ache. I love you dear sister.

    Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.

  4. Blessings sweet Sharon, Ashamedly I must admit that I've been here 3 times to read this and left no comment because I did not know how to say anything that would matter.
    You have written a heartfelt post and I was left without words to bring comfort. So I laid my hands & prayed for the Holy Comforter to fill that lonliness! Yet I know that FINALLY you were stating that you thankfully now know to run to God to fill those lonely moments.

    And you ran to His WORD & you knew that HE IS SUFFICIENT & ALL YOU NEED! So I asked myself what can you say to Sharon...for too many times I have lived by my emotions and the enemy knows that is my vulnerability.

    I learned at one time in my life to find blessings of lonliness.
    Loneliness became a reminder of the cross, the sacrifice of my own desires for those of the Lord. Jesus tells us in Matthew 16:24-25 "If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it; but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it."

    The popular Christian music group Caedmon's Call sings a song called "Valleys Fill First" that points out that when the rain falls, the water flows to the lowest places, filling the valleys first. The blood of Christ was meant to flow to those who are hurting and struggling. Jesus said, "It is not those who are well who need a physician, but those who are sick" (Luke 5:31).

    I was one who felt His healing touch in my life. Even though I was lonely, in an earthly sense, the void was more than filled, even overflowing, with satisfaction and a sense of belonging.

    So my words can't do anything but empathize with you! But HIS WORDS can make a difference. This song is what came to me from what you shared from Hillsong United Live

    All I Need Is You

    Left my fear beside of the road
    Hear You speak
    Won't let go
    Fall to my knees as I lift my hands to pray

    Got every reason to be here again
    Father's love that draws me in
    And all my eyes wanna see is a glimpse of You

    All I need is You
    All I need is You Lord
    Is You Lord

    One more day and it's not the same
    Your Spirit calls my heart to sing
    Drawn to the voice of my Saviour once again
    Where my soul be without Your Son
    Gave His life to save the earth
    Rest in the thought that You're watching over me

    All I need is You
    All I need is You Lord
    Is You Lord

    You hold the universe
    You hold everyone on earth
    You hold the universe
    You hold
    You hold

    May Our Lord BE ALL you NEED! I'm sorry that you are grieving the loss of a beloved sister moving away...words, feelings, even music can't change that...but you know HE can give you HOPE for future visits & more to help you adjust
    (maybe send you another)With confidence we can HOPE in CHRIST!

  5. Your blog was good today for me to hear -- wish you weren't in a lonely spot. Emotions feel so much like truth. I guess that's when Scripture really can give us those real words of truth if we let it (speaking for myself). Thinking of you this afternoon.

  6. Your blog reminded me that as we go through the valleys, He is beside us and at times I am sure He carries us.

    I am experiencing a loneliness that is difficult to explain. I have a form of dementia which has really isolated me. Yet, when I sit at the kitchen table and look outside I am filled with peace. I might not remember a scripture, or go to my Bible, but I recognize that God loves me and always will. I am content in this loneliness. (Where is spell check LOL).

    The problem I have now is that I am beginning to feel better, I know my sister, husband and daughter feel like they can boss me around. I've got a form of dementia, that is treatable, I'm not deaf and dumb.

    I hang on to my Lord, because it is instinctive to do. I had a rough time this week and the stress made me revert back to a child for a day or so. You can read about it at

    That is why I like your blog so much. I've lost my words but you have the spirit of my soul.


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